This week, we are featuring entries from our personal blogs. (Make sure to check out Amanda’s post from Monday.) Today’s post comes from a personal entry in my joy journal where I share an important lesson I learned in my marriage. Enjoy!
My head pounded as I woke up this morning. Ugh…a migraine! My husband complained about his throat bothering him since last night. Chad’s body was warm and weak. By the sound of his voice, I could tell that he had a full blown head cold. He was in no condition to go to work.
Somehow, I managed to slowly get up, get dressed and out the door to go to an appointment. I felt…blah! My brain was foggy, and nothing I did helped me stay alert…not even a strong cup of cofee! Who was I kidding?! I was simply out of it this morning, and needed to go back to bed. It did not matter what my husband or I had planned today…life said “TIME OUT!…Go home, rest, take it easy.”
We slept in our bed till late in the afternoon, and watched movies on our couch with our blankets and tissues in the evening. Our “Time Out” together was actually what we needed…not just for our physical bodies, but for our relationship. Although we were ill, the fact that our best friend was by our side made the day sweeter.
My husband is an avid NBA fan, and I enjoy watching basketball games from time to time. I’ve learned that every team gets called out by their coach for “time out” during key moments of the game. ”Time Outs” allow the team to rest, recharge, communicate, and restrategize. Without these “time outs” any team can get tired, lose focus, and unaware of the blindspots that may keep them from winning a victory. ”Time Outs” are also vital in a marriage relationship (although yours may not involve illness like ours did today). Busy schedules, kids, commitments, and stresses can pull spouses away from each other, if we are not careful. The good news is we have the ability to call a “time out” with our spouse before things get overwheleming. ”Time Outs” are divine interruptions to pull us out of our routine to focus on our mate. Spouses can connect, communicate, recharge, and get back into the “game” of life as a united team…ready to win.
Today was a reminder that my spouse is my main priority in life (other than God). He needs my presence, support, encouragement, humor, and faith….and vice versa. Any time shared in our marriage is never a waste…it helps us get on the same page.
What are some healthy ways to take a “time out” with your mate? Has life ever brought a divine “Time Out” in your marriage? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.